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How to Mend a Broken Heart

June 4, 2010 at 12:00PM by Gennifer Delman |

Broken Heart Cookie

Whether you've ended a long-term relationship or a label-less fling, breakups are never fun. Time consuming and heart wrenching, it's too easy to dwell on the past and get caught up in what could have, should have, or would have been. To avoid these hang-ups and help you make a comeback, check out these tips:

Get Active!

Work out your frustrations and burn some calories at the same time. If you're a gym person, sign up for a pilates or spin class to turn up the heat. Engage in healthy intervals of cardio and weights and mix up your routine each time. Or, you can keep it simple just by going for a brisk walk with your dog or riding your bike. Create a master playlist and get your heart pumping! You'll be feeling and looking great in no time.

Write it out — then delete it.

We well know that even the smallest thing can trigger our emotions. You may find an old tee of his crumpled up in your drawer or revisit a cute text that you saved; any of these actions will bring up old feelings. Whichever emotion you're experiencing it's helpful to write it down. Pen an entry in a private diary or compose your thoughts in a text message and then hit "delete." That way you can metaphorically and quite literally throw out these feelings and start fresh. You may also get satisfaction out of typing out a text and then sending it to a BFF. That way you feel like you can press "send" and let go. No matter what, DO NOT send the text to HIM! You will regret it later.

Go out with the girls!

Watching an empowering movie with your big sis or engaging in some retail therapy with your BFF may be just what the doctor ordered to cure a broken heart. Splurge on a new designer bag or pick out a hot new LBD — just make sure the ladies in your life are there by your side.

How else do you mend a broken heart and move on? Share your secrets and stay strong!

xoxo,

Gennifer

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What His Texting Style Really Says About Him

June 3, 2010 at 10:00AM by Anna Hyclak |

Mixed Messages

When it comes to dating, texting can be super useful (you don't have to call him) and super annoying (why hasn't he texted back?!). Don't worry — we've got you covered. Here's your cheat sheet to what his texts really mean.

If he only ever texts things like "Hey, what's up" "that's cool" or "nm": He doesn't know if you like him or not — so he's trying to play it cool. Instead of saying "not much" when he asks, "what's up," invite him to meet you at the mall or suggest a water balloon fight at the park. He's been waiting for you to make the first move — so go for it, girl!

If you always have to text him first: This could be a bad sign. If a guy likes you, he will find a way to get in touch with you. That said, maybe he's gotten so used to you texting him that he doesn't feel the need to reach out on his own. Stop texting for a few days and see if he picks up the slack.

If he texts you constantly: You've got him hooked! Just make sure he's not consuming your entire life, Spencer Pratt-style. If you notice that he starts texting more whenever he knows you're out with your girlfriends or hanging with your family, he could be bad news. A girl needs her space!

If he doesn't text — period: Some people just don't like to text and that's not necessarily a bad thing. Use this opportunity to connect with him over the phone or in person — you know, the old-fashioned way!

If he texts other girls when you're together: This guy could be a player — or he could just have a lot of female friends. Make sure you know what he's texting before you freak out about who he's texting. We don't mean look through his phone — that's never okay! When you see him texting a girl, just casually ask, "Whatcha texting?" If he acts super shady about it, it's probably nothing good.

If he only tries to get you to "sext": He doesn't respect you — and he probably never will. Run, run, run in the opposite direction! After all, you never know what's gonna happen to those dirty pictures and messages after you press "send!"

Do you analyze your guy's texts? Have you ever broken up with someone over a texting habit? How else has social media affected your dating life?

Xoxo,

Anna

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The Bachelor: The Video Game for Nintendo Wii and DS!

May 28, 2010 at 2:00PM by Kirsten Robinson |

Bachelor Video Game

"And, the final rose goes to...you!" That's right, Bachelor fans, The Bachelor: The Videogame is coming to Nintendo Wii and DS this July, which means that you can compete for your very own rose (and win the heart of your favorite Bachelor or Bachelorette!) from your very own home. The game characters are based on five each of real-life Bachelors and Bachelorettes, such as Jason Mesnick, Andy Baldwin, Trista Sutter, and Jillian Harris.

In the game, which is hosted by Chris Harrison (the real-life host of the TV series), players can choose from a selection of avatars that best suit their personality. There are two game modes; in single-player mode, the game is structured just like the TV show, with multiple "episodes" where the player competes against the game characters for time alone with the Bachelor or Bachelorette. In multiplayer mode (on the Wii version), you can play with friends, and turn the game into an all-out "frenemy" competition. You can even sabotage others' dates and prevent them from receiving a rose — sorry, BFFs, but all's fair on reality dating shows and their video games, right?

During each "season" (or game), the contestants go on a bunch of cool Group Dates and a One-on-One Date to try to earn hearts. The dates include fun challenges, puzzles, and mini-games, which test a variety of different skills such as memory, speed, and precision. The winner is chosen at the end of the season, players go to the rose ceremony, where the Bachelor or Bachelorette sees how many hearts each contestant gained during the dates.

We're always jealous of the amazing, exotic getaways that the real-life contestants get to go on the TV show, so we were excited to learn that in this game, all of the dates take place in romantic spots too like beach houses, rooftop restaurants, snowy mountain resorts, and more!

Are you going to check out The Bachelor: The Videogame? Do you have any favorite Bachelors or Bachelorettes that you'd have fun competing for?

Xoxo,

Kirsten

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Your Guide to the Perfect Prom Date!

May 28, 2010 at 9:00AM by Kayla Hutzler |

Guy With Rose

While you don't need a date to have an amazing time at prom — sometimes it can seem like the date is the most important part. Here are some things to keep in mind when choosing your dream prom date.

Don't Go for Arm Candy: The idea of having the most gorgeous guy as your prom date may have its appeal — everyone likes to see arm candy in pictures — but this should not be the focus of your prom date pick. You'll have the best time if you go with a friend and more importantly, someone you're comfortable with. You do not need the added nervous stress of going with someone you barely know.

Friend Equals Benefits: If you bring a friend as your date and are already part of the same circle, you won't have to compromise on where to go for before-prom pictures, what limo to take, or your table seating arrangements.

Match It Up: Once you're date is set, it's time to make sure the two of you coordinate — nothing is worse than clashing in your pictures. If your dress is black, he shouldn't be wearing a navy blue suit, and his tie should complement your dress color. Want an insider trick? Once you've finalized your dress, go to a paint store and pick up all the swatches that look like the color of it. Go home, place them all on top of your dress, pick the one that looks the most similar and give it to your guy — he'll have no excuses when he doesn't match you perfectly!

Who are you taking to prom? What's your best advice for choosing a prom date?

Xoxo,

Kayla

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Tags: dating, prom, date

Is Facebook Stopping You from Getting Over Your Ex?

May 26, 2010 at 11:00AM by Anna Hyclak |

Flirt Fraud

You and your boyfriend have called it quits. You've ended the relationship online, returning to "Single" status and purging your photo albums of any and all reminders that you guys once kissed and hugged and shared laughs and inside jokes. You've told all of your friends that you're totally over him and even gave your number to that cute guy who always sings Jack Johnson covers at your school's Open Mic nights.

And yet, in spite of all of this, you still find yourself stalking Mr. Ex on Facebook. Really stalking. Like finding yourself 20 pages deep into his tagged photos stalking. Or, reading his wall-to-wall exchanges with his brother stalking. And, compulsively checking his page every time you log-on stalking. You're not even sure why you're doing it — except that he's out of your life and you desperately want to know what he's up to. You don't even necessarily want to get back together with him — you just want an update. And maybe, just maybe, a sign that he's somehow less happy than you are.

Trust us. Stop right there. Break-ups are hard enough as it is, and seeing your ex smiling in pictures and exchanging wall posts with cute girls certainly isn't going to make things any easier (especially if he was the one to break your heart). As hard as it may be to look away, you need to do exactly that. Here's how:

Hide him from your News Feed You really don't need to see who he just became friends with or what he's doing later tonight — it will only make you jealous (and fuel your stalking habit). Out of the News Feed, out of mind, right? Make that your mantra!

Limit yourself to one glance at his page every day. Eventually you'll just stop looking all together. We promise!

Stay away from his pictures. He's going to look cuter and happier than you remember. He's not so don't torture yourself by trying to analyze his photos.

If all else fails, de-friend him or even block him. This might sound like a drastic move, but it's for your own good. You're never going to fully move on unless you stop creeping on Mr. Ex and start living your life again. Strike up a Facebook flirtation with the Jack Johnson soundalike — that'll give you something to do when you're bored and online.

Have you ever had to get over your ex by removing him from your friend list? How else has social media affected your dating life?

Xoxo,

Anna

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Cheap 'n' Fun Summer Date Ideas!

May 24, 2010 at 10:00AM by Tyler Rowell |

Romantic Beach Picnic

Summer is almost here! It's a great time to spend those lazy days with your boyfriend. Want to have fun without breaking the bank? Read on for our suggestions of fabulous summer dates — on the cheap!

Have a Picnic: Picnics are an awesome way to relax on a summer day. Pack some of your favorite foods from your mom's fridge, bring your iPod (with speakers), and enjoy spending one-on-one time together while soaking up the rays.

Ride Your Bikes: Bike rides are a great way to get outdoors and enjoy the day. Look for local trails and then you can have multiple daytime dates throughout the summer by riding them all!

Find a Drive-in Movie: These can be hard to come by but many towns still have drive-ins around the area. This is a great way to create a more unique experience to the standard movie date. Also, many times the drive-ins show double features for the price of one!

Hit the Museum: Museums might sound boring, but you'll be surprised how much fun it can be discussing works of art, or seeing limited-time-only exhibits! Some museums even have interactive exhibits for you and your guy to really get involved in. The best part? Most museums offer free days, late-night, or special prices for students!

Attend an Outdoor Concert: Check your local weekend guide because lots of parks and outdoor venues offer free concerts throughout the summer. Lots of times they're part of festivals and other fun events. If you want to spend a bit more money and see some of your favorite bands on tour this summer, outdoor concerts usually have lawn seats at much cheaper prices!

What’s your favorite summer activity? What summer dates are you most looking forward to planning?

Xoxo,

Tyler

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Three Signs He's Boyfriend Material

May 5, 2010 at 10:00AM by Ale Foresto |

Blinded By Love

Love is different for everybody, but there are a few signs that could indicate the guy you're dating is a keeper. Read on for three important signals that the boy you're seeing could be in your life for the long run!

He gets along with your friends and family: You want your boyfriend to be able to come to family parties and dinners with your friends. If they don't get along, you might be forced to choose and that could put a strain on all the relationships in your life. The bottom line is if he doesn’t have good things to say about your loved ones — it will definitely lead to long-term problems.

The pressure is off: If you say you don't want to drink, do drugs or have sex and he doesn't understand it — it's time to move on. Once you get into a serious relationship with the guy, the pressure will be even greater.

He listens: If he cares about your problems and concerns then he's definitely a keeper. A relationship should be more than just a few hangout sessions and nights out. You share part of your life with a boyfriend and that doesn't just mean the good parts. You want to be able to share your thoughts and you want him to share his good and bad moments with you too.

Do you have a serious boyfriend? What let you know that he was boyfriend material?

Xoxo

Ale

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Four Reasons Being Single Rocks!

April 15, 2010 at 2:00PM by Ale Foresto |

We won't lie — having a boyfriend is a very special thing. But you know what's even better? Feeling confident and happy with yourself all the time. There are lots of upsides to being single. In fact, the better off you are on your own — the better girlfriend you'll be when the right guy comes along. Read on for our four great reasons that being single rocks!

You Can Find Your Passions: When you're single, you can use the time to focus on your hobbies (or find a new one) — like taking that yoga class you've seen advertised around town. You have more time to do those things you love the most without worrying about anyone else.

More Time to Hang with Your Girls: Sometimes it's hard to manage your time between a boyfriend and friends. No more "I can't, I have to go to my guy's basketball game." You're free to hang out with your pals whenever you want.

Become a Guy Magnet: You're single and free to mingle. Go out of your comfort zone and talk to guys that don't seem like your type. This is the perfect time to meet new people without feeling guilty that you're being unfaithful to your boyfriend.

A Chance to Save Your Dough: You can skip buying presents for your boyfriend's birthday, your anniversary and Valentine's Day, plus dinners and even trips to visit him if he goes to a different college. Instead, put the money in a savings account and use it on that something special at the mall that you've had your eye on!

What is your favorite part of being single?

Xoxo,

Ale

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Should You Match With Your Guy At Prom?

March 8, 2010 at 10:40AM by Gennifer Delman |

Prom Date Couple

Maybe you think it's a good idea for you and your prom date to coordinate your look, but does he? From the color of his tie to your corsage, it's important to keep in mind that your date may have an opinion about what he wants to wear (or doesn't want to wear)on your special night. Check out what these guys say about getting dressed for prom:

Joe from Somers, CT: "Guys shouldn't know what matching is. Wearing any color is cool -- If you look ridiculous, at least it'll make a funny story later on!"

Frank from Medfield, MA: "A guy should be able to wear whatever he wants. I'd rather not wear pink or purple, but if my date really wants to match, then I'd accommodate her needs somehow."

Luke from Poconos, PA: "My date wouldn't have gone with me if we weren't wearing the same color! Though we matched completely, I still think a guy has the right to wear whatever color he wants."

Steve from Greenlawn, NY: "A guy should wear any color he wants, but also be ready to compromise if his date wants to match. I didn't match at my prom, but I at least made sure the corsage complemented her dress. I definitely wouldn't wear pink, purple, or orange."

Jason from Pittsfield, MA: "I wore a white tux and she wore a white dress. A guy should be able to wear whatever color (I'd personally rock any color) he wants but be ready to face the consequence that comes along with that!"

As you can see, while some guys aren't phased by their color attire, others may feel uncomfortable wearing a particular hue. That doesn't mean that you have to limit your dress options. Here's a list of colors that make as perfect of a pair as you and your date do:

You: Pink Him: Silver

You: Purple Him: Teal

You: Navy Him: Gold

You: Blue Him: Lime Green

You: Salmon Him: Light Grey

Remind your guy that he can have fun with his outfit too with different tie lengths/widths and patterned vests. Have him check out jeanyvesprom.com for ideas!

Are they any colors you wouldn't wear to prom? Give us the scoop below!

xoxo,

Gennifer

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Five Questions with JR Celski

February 26, 2010 at 2:30PM by Gennifer Delman |

JR Celski

Can one ever get enough of cute athletes? CG! thinks not! Washington native and 19-year-old speed skater JR Celski will be competing on behalf of Team USA tonight along with Trevor Marsicano. Get to know JR below:

CosmoGirl: Do you have a favorite designer or clothing line?

JR Celski: I love clothes! I’ll wear anything from Urban Outfitters or American Apparel.

CG: What words do you live by?

JC: "The one who dares, wins."

CG: What type of music do you listen to?

JC: I'm really into the indie-music scene and listen to a lot of De La Soul.

CG: What would you be if you weren't an athlete?

JC: I've been playing the guitar for about five years now, so it would be cool to be a full-time musician. That — or an architect.

CG: What is something you'd want people to know about you?

JC: Just that I thank God for blessing me with such a loving family and awesome friends.

JR competes TONIGHT at the 2010 Winter Olympics. Follow all of the American athletes over at TeamUSA.org. Good luck JR!

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Five Questions with Trevor Marsicano

February 26, 2010 at 2:15PM by Gennifer Delman |

Trevor Marsicano

No matter what sport you're a fan of, the Olympics are always full of excitement, patriotism, and… charming guys! Twenty-year-old cutie Trevor Marsicano will be representing the U.S. tonight in the speed skating competition. CG! caught up with the skating sensation and found out who his favorite bands are, what he does in his spare time, and how he risked death skating. Read on:

CosmoGirl: What do you do to unwind after a long day of skating?

Trevor Marsicano: My pastimes include golf, cycling, and video games for Xbox 360 like Halo.

CG: Who is your favorite band?

TM: Skillet and Fire Flight are my favorites. If you don't know them — definitely check it out!

CG: Do you have a lucky charm?

TM: It's a gold cross necklace. It reminds me I’m never without God.

CG: What was your favorite high school experience?

TM: I don't know — I never went! I've been home schooled since 9th grade.

CG: What is something you'd want people to know about you?

TM: I fell during the 2004 Jr. Championships and almost died. I could see my femur and lost half the blood in my body. I had to go through two hours of emergency surgery and it took a full year to recover. But now I'm at the Olympics. You can overcome anything!

Make sure you cheer Trevor on tonight! Want more? Check out NBC Olympics for photos, videos, and a full schedule. Go U.S.A.!

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Yo-Yo Dating

February 22, 2010 at 11:44AM by Divya Bahl |

Jealousy

You'd think once you arrive at college, boys would grow up and not reel you in and then push you away, right? I mean...college guys are mature and older...aren't they? Nope. Even in college, you'll meet that gorgeous senior who flirts with you after class, texts you before you go to sleep and acts totally interested in you but then the following week completely ignores you while he's chatting up some other girl at a party. As soon as you are about to say "enough is enough," he does something so irresistibly sweet, that you can't possibly let go. Behold, the infamous yo-yo dating scene.

I've met and dealt with them and you totally deserve better – as I'm sure you've said to yourself a million times already. There are ways though, to cut the cord of this yo-yo who has been stringing you along for way too long!

Don't over flirt! Boys who like you will be clear. Yes, we all play games but when a boy truly does like you – it's game over, and there are no more pawns to kill or castles to jump. If you feel like you're flirting more than he is, stop yourself and let him keep the witty banter flowing for once. It'll stop you from wasting your conversation on a guy who isn't as invested in this as you are.

Take control of your social life. I can admit to going to a party because I thought my crush would be there. Don't plan your social life around where he might be! You're only setting yourself up for disappointment when your fun is determined on his actions! Do what you want to do tonight and don't plan your social life around him.

Be true to yourself. My friend had to put her foot down to the off and on again hookups with a guy who was being hot and cold with her. You might tell yourself you're okay with a friends and benefits relationship, but if you truly like this guy, you're only getting half of what you want, which won't make you happy in the end. You deserve the whole nine yards, so be strong and hold out.

It's definitely hard when you fall for a guy like this, but remember a guy who hates labels, is a repeated hookup, or is just hot and cold isn't the person you want a relationship with.

Have you been in this type of relationship? What did you do to stop chasing?

Xoxo,

Divya Bahl

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Saying "No" to Sex After Prom

February 19, 2010 at 12:05AM by Gennifer Delman |

Condom

Nervous that your date will bring up sex after prom? Follow this advice to stay safe and avoid uncomfortable situations with your evening arm candy:

Where are fun places to go after the prom to avoid being in a sex situation with my guy? What if he brings it up?

Staying away from bedrooms definitely helps, but frankly, you could go bowling with 100 friends and a guy could still send you the "I want sex tonight!" vibe. If he does, be as clear as possible with a big old "No." And in case he doesn't back off, be sure to have your cell phone with you at all times—and, as additional backup, enough cash for a cab home.

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Losing Your Virginity in College

February 16, 2010 at 5:00PM by Divya Bahl |

You Can't Take It Back

I remember coming to college thinking I would be one of the few who was still a virgin. At 17, I was slightly insecure, not 100 percent comfortable with my body and unlike many of my friends, failed at finding a "true love" to lose it to. Nonetheless, I wasn't keen on getting rid of my V-card, and soon realized that a lot of my friends were in the same boat as me. Regardless, things could be different and for some of you there may be a lot of pressure to lose it – whether you're a high school junior or a college freshman. Therefore, I have a few bits of advice...

Don't give yourself a time table. This isn't a race! I had friends who lost it and wished they hadn't. Society today gives us the notion that if you haven't lost it by a certain age, there must be something wrong with you. This is untrue and completely ridiculous! You should be completely ready and have no doubts about it before you have sex. Don't let anyone pressure you and don't deem yourself undesirable just because you haven't been that sexually active yet.

It isn't unusual to be a virgin. This may seem obvious, but a lot of people often feel like they're the only one when a majority of their friends have already had sex. I know people who are waiting until marriage. I know others who are waiting for the right person and haven't found that person yet. Don't do it because you want to fit in, and never do it because a boy is pressuring you to, or you think it'll make him like you more. If he really cares about you, he'll respect your choices.

Once it's gone, it's gone. Remember that once you lose your virginity, you can't really get it back. The risks of sex are big and you should be knowledgeable about what you're doing and the precautions you should take as well as who you're doing it with. Be sure that your partner is someone you trust and that he won't be gone in the morning. You might feel physically ready, but if you're not emotionally ready you don't want to be heartbroken since sex is really special to most people.

What are your thoughts? Do you feel pressured to lose your virginity?

Xoxo,

Divya

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Help! He Won't Wear a Tux

February 12, 2010 at 9:01AM by Colleen Moody |

Robert Pattinson

Just like some girls hate dresses, some guys hate tuxedos. If you sense your date might have this issue, check out the reader dilemma below to see how you should handle it.

My guy doesn't want to wear a classic tux - what else is there?

There are three options here:

He can rent a suit. Tux rental places rent full suits, including shirts (not just plain ones - stripes and colors too) ties (ditto), and shoes, says Kathleen Peskens of After Six. Some guys are more comfortable in a suit, and your pics will still look special.

He can wear a tux and ditch the tie. If he's tie-phobic, he can leave the top two shirt buttons open. He'll feel relaxed, and it's a hot look, says Peskens, since today's tuxes are cut slimmer and more body-hugging. And what guy doesn't like to show off a little?

He can deal with it. It's one night, after all. If he's never tried on a tuxedo, try to get him to, "just for fun." Once he sees how James-Bond-cool he looks, he might just change his mind. Seriously, it's possible!

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